When is enough really enough? How many times have you asked this question to yourself or to others? Well if this is a question that you have been asking or have been asked, then I am going to tell you right now that if you are even asking this question, then enough is right now.
I say this because when you get to this point you have already endured a tremendous amount of suffering. So much that you are silently crying out to be rescued. I say this because I was that person asking the question. I was trying to figure out: how many times am I going to listen to the lies; how many times am I going to accept mistreatment; how many times am I going to retaliate in a mean way; how many times am I going to shut down my love; how many tears am I going to cry over a situation; have I really had enough. These questions were just trying to align my flesh and mind with what my spirit already knew. My spirit knew that I had suffered enough.
So if I spiritually knew that it was enough, then why didn’t my mind come into agreement that it was enough? Things didn’t click together because I was battling with my insecurities. I was battling with my fears. I was battling with my doubts. I was battling with the shouda, coulda, wouldas. I was battling with my ego. I was battling with my mind and flesh. I wasn’t convinced that I deserved to be anything other than suffering. Can anyone relate?
Don’t get me wrong, it is not all the other persons fault because they are only doing what they know to do and what you allowed them to do. Let me help you get this a little better. If you are not watching your child and they get into a bag of flour, then they start to spread the flour all over the kitchen floor. You come into the kitchen and see what is going on, but you don’t correct the behavior because the child was happy. What do you think the child is going to do? That’s right – the child is going to keep getting into things because the behavior was not corrected by stern consequences. You didn’t teach child the rules and boundaries. You didn’t teach that child to respect you.
This is how we behave in relationships, especially if we are broken going into them. We are more concerned about our partner’s happiness because we feel like they are our completeness even at the expense of our own happiness. Whoa – I can stop right there. You are looking for validation outside of God, so you are settling for pieces and parts of what you think is a relationship. That being said, the person who is causing you pain is not the problem. You are the problem. Some people may not like what I am saying, but it is what it is. Did you hear what I am saying to you? You are the problem because you haven’t dealt with the issue the first time it showed up in your relationship, then you wouldn’t be asking when is enough really enough. I guarantee if you are asking the question, you have been dealing with the same issues over and over again. I promise you that. You are letting your past dictate your now and your future.
Do you want to know what you need to do? You need to get yourself right. You have to heal your heart because as long as you remain broken you will continue to be in toxic relationships. When you heal your heart, you will recognize your worth and set boundaries. If you have boundaries, you won’t have to ask the question is enough really enough. You won’t have to ask because if a person crosses the boundaries set, then it will be enough – end of story. Look to God and he will help you to heal your heart. Are you ready? Do you want to heal? Act now and fall on your face and surrender to God. Hallelujah!!!
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