“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates other.” – Marianne Williamson, A Return to Love: Reflections on the Principles of “A Course in Miracles”
You don’t know how much the aforementioned words means to me. I was feeling some type of way this morning when I read this quote on a friend’s page. This message really shifted my mood. I know I am not the only one who has doubt their own abilities. In all actuality I’ve been torn for many years with this thing called letting my light shine. I feared what people thought, I feared what people would say, I wondered would I be accepted and appreciated. Every time I would start something, there would be the negative voice in my head saying things like:
- So and so knows best because they have a master’s degree and is a manager. With these thoughts I remain quiet in some meetings when I clearly know the person is wrong. What do you know? I would say to myself. Well, actually I know a lot! Tons of people come to me on a daily basis with questions or seeking guidance. Hello, if I didn’t know things, why would people continue to reach out to me? I am thankful that they believe in my abilities and appreciate what I have to offer. Now it’s time to believe in myself. I also believe there is a way to express your thoughts without boasting or being deemed a know it all. Some people haven’t figured that out yet. I know that I am very intelligent with or without a degree.
- Don’t let people know you can write (poems, songs, blogs), make music, design clothes, make custom phone case (and can bling out anything) because they aren’t going to like it anyway. With this thinking, no wonder I have not expanded my presence. You know I’m an artist and I am sensitive about my shit – lol! For real though, I’ve realized everybody is not going to like what you have to offer. So you need to focus on getting the support from those who love what you have to offer (more will be won over along the way).
So after doing some self reflection I realized that what I thought I feared, what others thought of me, was not the case. I truly feared how great I am and how it may make others feel. Now don’t take it as if I’m being arrogant or something. I am not that at all. If you know me, you know I am humble and down to earth. I feel that no one person is better than anyone else. No more of this “fear” because I fell for the foolishness for far too many years knowing that I am destined for great things. When I say that, I mean it!
I have so many ideas that I have to share with the world. This year, I have made huge steps by sharing little bits of myself (hello, this blog for instance). It’s funny when I hear folks say I did not know you thought like that or you design clothes or you write. Well, it’s actually not funny because how would they know if I never shared my talents until now. I have received encouragement and support from unlikely sources. I am getting out of my own way (look out for more things from me), and you should do the same.
We were not born with the spirit of fear. Ask yourself, why fear anything when you have faith? There is nothing to fear. From now on stop listening to yourself and start speaking to yourself. Inspire you (and others along the way)!