October 25, 2020

That Thing Called Life

Let's share our experiences together.

What in the world is going on in my life?

I know I am not the only person in existence to have uttered those words – what in the world is going on with my life?  Some days are better than others, but the past couple of weeks (well actually months) have been crazy and extremely frustrating.  I lost my mom over 17 years ago, and times like this I wish she was here even more.

SITUATION

I have challenges in my life, professional and personal. I feel like I am always the one people turn to, and I am there with no problem.  However, I don’t feel like I have the same support available to me.  For my loved ones that read this, I am not saying that the people who love me would not be willing to help me in any way I need.  I just don’t ask for help! I have been that strong, independent person who feels like she can solve all of her own problems. My famous thoughts, “I will figure it out and don’t want to burden others with my problems”. Horse crap (not going to curse)! This internalization of the madness that goes on in your world will drive you crazy.

STEPS TO HELP

  • First, determine the emotions you are feeling. Note: this is challenging for me because I have suppressed my feelings for so long (so everything that isn’t joy, happiness, excitement basically gets categorized as anger – LOL). What goes on in my head – is that sadness I’m feeling? Nope, that’s anger. Is that disappointment I’m feeling? Nope, that’s anger. Don’t suppress, deal with the emotions you are feeling!!
  • Second, determine what you need. Do you just want someone to vent to? Do you need answers and/or guidance? Are you missing something? Do you need to borrow some coins to pay a bill? Figure out what it is that you need!!
  • Third, determine who can help you. Maybe it is your spouse or a sibling? Maybe it is a dear friend? Figure out who you can turn to!!
  • Fourth, seek the help and address the issue head on!

MORAL TO THE STORY

Trust the people around you to love and support you. You will be surprised. However, if they aren’t willing to help, you may need to analyze if that person needs to remain in your inner circle or life. Now don’t go and cut off your sister because she can’t loan you $100. I’m talking about if they aren’t willing to offer emotional support in your time of need, and only then you should evaluate that relationship child. You should also find an outlet! Maybe writing, drawing, boxing (that’s what I want to do), something. You just do whatever it takes to make sure you are okay.

 

Best Wishes!!

Tashia

 

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